Today's blog post contains ideas on how to have a more positive life. (Please see the 4/3/11 and 8/20/11 blog posts for previous positive-living ideas.)
(Please note that I am not a professional advisor, nor do I claim to be an expert on the human psyche. However, in this blog post, I am merely expressing my opinion based on study and observation.)
Does your garden look like this, with weeds and dead or dying plants?
Sometimes, eliminating can be just as important as acquiring in order to be happy. Some things, like negative situations, need to be changed in order for us to live a more positive life. For example, if a person dislikes his or her job, it would be beneficial to find another job, thereby eliminating the undesirable one. If doing a certain chore like house cleaning is not to one's liking, saving up money to get someone else to clean the house would be a great option in order to eliminate an unpleasant part of one's life. Plus, the cleaning person benefits from getting an extra income!
Get rid of the stuff that no longer serves you.
Similarly, if someone is making your life miserable, you might want to consider limiting your contact with this person. In fact, he or she might even be physically or emotionally abusive. Don't ever let anyone put you down or push you around. That's not necessary for you to put up with! No one has the right to abuse, bully, or harass you.
However, two wrongs don't make a right, so I'd never advise retaliation. I'd never lower myself to their level. Instead, I'd avoid people like this whenever possible. Don't hate these people, just send them love from afar!
There are many great books written about abusive types of people such as Toxic People by Lillian Glass and The Gaslight Effect by Dr. Robin Stern. I believe it's helpful to try to understand what makes these people tick.
Also, having someone to talk to like a trusted friend or a couselor might be a good idea, if needed.
It's important to surround yourself with positive people who love, respect, and encourage you, as you, hopefully, would them. If you don't have anyone in your life who treats you in this way, you might want to make new friends! Your life should be so much better and happier when you do.
A well-cultivated garden makes all the difference.
There are some excellent books on positive living which include having positive relationships. I'm particularly fond of books by Joel and Victoria Osteen such as Joel's Your Best Life Now and Victoria's Love Your Life.
In general, if you look for the good in others, you can usually find it!
Today, Greg and I enjoyed being at my brother and sister-in-law's (Nick and Lisa Botts) house to help celebrate our nephew John's and his great uncle's birthdays. They were both born on November 13, 70 years apart.
John Botts and R. H. Milhorn
Positive thought: Make a new friend this week!
Thanks for visiting! Until next time (Sunday, November 20), Becky
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